A couple of weeks ago I wrote how my morning devotion had confirmed our desire to become foster parents. I was thankful for that and realized that if I am being realistic, I must admit that my devotions stink! No, not God… but ME! I do not spend nearly enough time in the word.
Like many, I have become an instant gratification person. I like things now and not a moment later, but that’s not reality. Some things in life are a process, or a continual journey of growing. For the first time in my life, I feel I am learning to enjoy this process of becoming a foster parent. When I went to college, bought my home, and planned my wedding, I never really enjoyed the process. I just wanted to get to the good stuff… now, in this stage of my life, while I would love to have a child in my home yesterday, I realize that in this process God is working. He is revealing to me the type of parent I desire to become. He is also allowing me to be somewhat realistic and not such a dreamer of this fairytale life I thought I desired.
This week leading up to Mother’s Day has been obviously focused on moms! Our local Christian radio station has been doing a series on motherhood and there have been countless other things throughout the week that have brought thoughts to mind. I said earlier that I wanted to be a creative mom. I wanted to parent my children in a way that respected them as individuals and instilled safety, love and a sense of belonging in our family!
Today, while reading my daily devotion, the writer spoke of how she didn’t want to make life easy for her children by giving them all the answers and providing them with their every need. I really appreciated this viewpoint. As an educator, having worked in special education for most of my career, I pride myself on the fact that I do not give answers and that I make my students think for themselves. As a daughter, I now see why my mom and dad parented me the way they did. They desired that I be a strong and independent woman. In essence, they wanted me to think for myself and to make my own choices in life.
My devotional today was reinforced again while listening to our local Christian talk radio station. The preacher was talking about various mothers in the Bible and said that as moms we need to be rooted in God’s word. I couldn’t agree more. Between the radio and the devotional, I realized one very important thing. If you are rooted in His word, you have a map. No, not a handbook on parenting, but a map. As I read it became real that it is my job, our job as parents not to “give them fish” but to teach them to fish!
The other thing that became strongly apparent was that while I feel rooted in the word, I need to become even more rooted. In the past couple of years, I have learned to draw on the word of God in different circumstances. For example, if I find myself complaining, I remind myself that the Bible says to do all things without complaint and to count it all joy! It doesn’t make me perfect, I struggle like everyone else. I have just found that it helps me to put things in perspective and to deal with things. So as we move through this journey, my wish is that as I grow in becoming a parent, that I also grow even more deeply rooted!
Deuteronomy 11:18-21 (NIV):
“Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, so that your days and the days of your children may be many…”